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Epi #104 Five Reason Women have Self Doubt that keeps them Stuck.

Heal Your Self Doubt and get unstuck. Self Doubts are DREAM KILLER.

In my time as a coach, I have seen more women hold back because of self-doubt. Some can call it self-belief, a value system, or countless other words. However, in the end, it is self-doubt. They lack in believing they can do it.

How do they know if self-doubt is holding them back?  They have many ideas for starting a business or implementing new ideas at their job or improving relationships. But they never ever take action. People say they are dreamers, not doers.

Then they jump on the hamster wheel to beat themselves up. Why or why can’t I get moving? When I work with women watching the light go on is amazing. Watching them discover it is self-doubt and also seeing where it starts and, more important…how to heal it.

Once their self-doubt is healed, they have clarity, courage, and unstoppable courage. Who in the heck doesn’t want that? https://karenbarno.com/whats-next/

Women with self-doubt may have a range of deep-seated worries that contribute to their lack of confidence and self-esteem. Here are five common worries that women with self-doubt may experience:

Not being good enough: A common worry for women with self-doubt is that they are not good enough in some way. They may worry that they are not smart enough, attractive enough, successful enough, or skilled enough to measure up to others.

Fear of failure: Women with self-doubt may have a deep-seated fear of failure. They may worry that if they take risks or pursue their goals, they will fail and be judged or criticized by others. This fear can prevent them from taking action or trying new things.

Need for perfection: Some women with self-doubt may feel that they need to be perfect in order to be accepted or valued by others. They may worry that any mistake or imperfection will lead to rejection or disapproval.

Being judged or criticized: Women with self-doubt may worry about being judged or criticized by others. They may feel that they are constantly under scrutiny and that any misstep or perceived flaw will be noticed and judged harshly.

Lack of control: Women with self-doubt may feel that they lack control over their lives and their circumstances. They may worry that they are at the mercy of external factors and that they are powerless to change their situation. This can lead to feelings of helplessness and despair.

Epi #103 Identity Shift and Meeting the Moment of Transformation

Hello, and welcome to this video blog about the difference between an identity shift and transformation when making changes in your life. First, let’s define what we mean by these terms. An identity shift refers to a change in how we see ourselves, our beliefs, and our values. It involves a shift in our sense of identity and who we believe ourselves to be. On the other hand, transformation involves a significant change in our behavior and habits, resulting in a significant change in our lives.

Now, it’s essential to understand that an identity shift can lead to transformation, but not all identity shifts necessarily result in transformation. For example, if you identify as a smoker and you make the shift to identify as a non-smoker, but you don’t change your behavior, you won’t experience transformation. Transformation requires action, and it’s the actions we take that create lasting change. Identifying as a non-smoker is the first step, but it’s the decision to quit smoking and take action toward that goal that creates transformation.

So, how do we create lasting change in our lives? We start by identifying the beliefs and values that are holding us back and making an intentional shift in how we see ourselves. For example, if you’ve always identified as someone who is bad with money but you want to change that, start by identifying as someone who is financially responsible.

Next, take action toward your new identity. If you want to be financially responsible, start by creating a budget and sticking to it. Take steps towards paying off debt and saving for the future. Remember, creating lasting change requires both an identity shift and transformational action. When we change how we see ourselves and take action toward our goals, we can create a life that aligns with our true selves. So, start by identifying the beliefs and values that are holding you back and make an intentional shift toward your true identity.

Then, take action towards your goals, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never thought possible. I hope this video blog has been helpful in understanding the difference between an identity shift and transformation when making changes in your life. Remember, you have the power to create lasting change in your life.

Epi #102 Self Love and Confidence

Happy Valentine’s Day, everybody! Today, I want to talk about something that is often overlooked when we talk about love – self-love. It’s a term that is often thrown around, but do we really understand what it means and how important it is? As a female confidence coach, I believe that self-love is the foundation of confidence and the key to living a fulfilling life.

I was recently on a call with 11 influential women, and the topic of discussion was self-love. To my surprise, only three women actually discussed the topic. It made me realize that self-love is still such a taboo subject that people avoid discussing it. It’s seen as selfish or indulgent, but it’s far from it. Self-love is about putting yourself first and taking care of your needs.

So, what is self-love? It’s about accepting yourself for who you are, flaws and all. It’s about being kind to yourself and treating yourself with the same love and respect you would give to your closest friend. It’s about setting boundaries, saying no when you need to, and prioritizing your well-being.

Self-love is essential for building confidence. When you love yourself, you are more likely to take risks, pursue your passions, and stand up for yourself. You are less likely to settle for less than you deserve and more likely to attract positive relationships into your life.

This Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to practice self-love. Take some time to do something that brings you joy, whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, or reading a good book. Write down things that you love about yourself and make a list of your accomplishments. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, and remember that you are worthy of love and respect.

Remember, self-love is not selfish. It’s necessary for living a fulfilling life and being the best version of yourself. So, this Valentine’s Day, make a commitment to love yourself more and watch your confidence soarl

Thank you for listening to today’s podcast. I hope you found it informative and helpful. Until next time, take care and stay sober!

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