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Epi. 86 Why Growth Mindset Matter?
Positivity Always Wins!
Why a growth mindset matter? Are you fascinated by what determines a high performer and the rest? What makes Kobe, Kobe? Diana Taurasi, great? Tom Brady a 6th-round draft pick. Stephon Curry is possibly the greatest three-point shooter of all time.
What sets them apart? Easy. Growth Mindset. They believe they are the best at what they do. So, at their core, they believe they are the best and work to achieve that goal. Their self-belief is a powerful tool of the mind.
Successful people in sports, raising children, and relationships are all convinced they are 3-5% better at what they do. For example, Kobe most likely believed he was at least 3% better than the next second-best NBA player. Tom Brady believes he is at least 3% better, and the list continues.
Did you know that when you speak a negative word or expression out loud, it becomes 40-70% more powerful? Just one negative expression can set all the progress you have worked on back. All that hard work disciple goes out the window.
The human mind was designed to lean into the negative versus the positive. Remember, Caveman and cavewoman’s brain was all about survival once they left the cave. Therefore, they pondered every NEGATIVE outcome that could go wrong, and that practice continues in most humans.
Why? I think most do not realize they can impact their mindset. They can turn it into a positive mind machine developed to support them versus holding them back. Is it easy? Nope? Is it worth it, YES! Thousand times, yes. Being the driver of your destiny versus being the passenger helps grow your mindset and achieve your dreams faster.
Each person has a Blue Rose. A calling that is unique only to YOU. NO one in the Universe can do exactly what you can do. But that is what makes you a human being in this Universe.
What path will you choose? One of negative or positive thinking? Let me know in the comments.
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Epi. 85 What is Your Identity?
Patterns on replay.
What is your identity? People often confuse identity with what they do, their job, position, or pay grade. People never think about who they are at their center. Or are you much more than that?
For instance, are you Barbara, the nurse, the mother, master’s student, wife, and the list goes on? Which one? I would argue that people are a compilation of all they have accomplished from birth to death. All the experiences of a life lived to inform them of who they are.
Our stories begin shortly after birth. Children hear adults constantly talking around the, they may not understand the conversation or the words however they get locked into their subconscious as they get older if they hear the same words, to them, it’s true.
For instance, if a baby is 1 1/2 to 2 years old, an adult says geez, the baby seems slow. or not walking yet, or processing as fast, or is a chubby slow starter. Or, if they are lucky, she hears she seems really smart, advanced, and perfect in everything she does. A superstar. The baby hears this. Plus, all the chatter that surrounds them through their first 8 years can leave a profound impact on the.
People evolve and grow. As a human, one of our goals is to evolve. Constantly improve. Now that doesn’t always happen. Often people get stuck in a certain part of their story, and that ‘stuck’ place is where they remain. Never really understanding what they can’t see to move forward. With the passage of time, they lose sight of their dreams. Start settling.
Their dream changes to match the reality of where they are today. It becomes a much smaller dream and smaller identity.
Learn how to find the belief holding you back and start changing it, healing it. NOW.
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Curling toes to stop stuttering.
Mindset matters.
After walking off the stage after my Power of Positivity presentation, an older gentleman sat discreetly by the exit waiting patiently to speak with me. The story he told me brought tears to my eyes, and 100% confirmed what I always knew…the amazing power of the mind.
I often talk of my speech impediment, where I have trouble saying the letters R and S. How my English teacher encouraged me to do public speaking. Not letting a ‘small’ issue cause me not to go after my dreams. At that time, my speech was an impediment as not a small issue until she showed it was.
This gentleman told me was a paid speaker who has spoken worldwide. Both across the pond and in America. He spoke deliberately as he told me about his amazing career. He told me how my presentation hit home, and he had to tell his story.
He has a speech impediment as well. When he was in school, HIS English teacher encouraged him not to quit. She told him that if he trusted her, she could show him how not to stutter when he spoke. Of course, he waited eagerly for the miracle she was about to offer.
She told him to curl his toes when he got up to speak. He had no idea how that would work, but he tried it. And he DID NOT stutter. And from that moment on, when he does public speaking, he curls his toes.
What an amazing story! Mindset matters.
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