She Leads Confidently
Ep. 87 I got Catfished!
Tales of being Catfished.
I was catfished. That was the first thing Dr. Sandra Brownstein said on a phone call with me. Now to be transparent, I barely knew what being ‘Catfished’ meant. I saw a show about it once, and it hurt my heart. The one I saw was about a woman who was catfished by another woman. She was left brokenhearted, and it made me so sad. Never even considered watching another episode.
Sandra had to spend the first part of the call explaining what catfished worked. How these guys troll social media sites to find their next victim. One shocking thing she told me was what percentage of profiles on Linkedin are catfishers. I was shocked.
What an insidious thing to do, Catfish innocent people.
Dr. Brownstein openly discussed her experiences with the Catfisher. The techniques they use to reel women in. Plus the same proven blueprint is used by 99% of these con artists. The Catfished builds up trust and love quickly, and once these women buy into the You’re my Queen, I love you and start packing, we are going to get married and travel the world. He’ll pay for everything. But STOP the presses. Something bad happens to him than the money request comes. It can be small like $500 for a plane ticket or $500,000 to pay a downpayment but don’t worry when he gets here, he’ll pay you back. Except that NEVER happens. When he gets the money, he is gone baby gone.
They ask for phone cards and mobile phones, then before they know what’s happening, they ask for 10,000+++ dollars. Many women get whipped out of all their savings, and the Catfisher is long gone. He moved on to his next victim.
I think these guys ‘talk’ with 3-4 women at a time to get their money. They prey upon single lonely women looking for companionship. These bad actors know all the triggers to pull, leaving many women with emotional trauma. Many spend years trying to recover financially and emotionally.
Dr. Brownstein could spot the scheme and left, not losing anything other than time and a few open wounds. She talks about how the process is done, the commonalities, and the red flags.
Join the conversation and bring a notebook. This session is note-taking worthy.
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Epi. 86 Why Growth Mindset Matter?
Positivity Always Wins!
Why a growth mindset matter? Are you fascinated by what determines a high performer and the rest? What makes Kobe, Kobe? Diana Taurasi, great? Tom Brady a 6th-round draft pick. Stephon Curry is possibly the greatest three-point shooter of all time.
What sets them apart? Easy. Growth Mindset. They believe they are the best at what they do. So, at their core, they believe they are the best and work to achieve that goal. Their self-belief is a powerful tool of the mind.
Successful people in sports, raising children, and relationships are all convinced they are 3-5% better at what they do. For example, Kobe most likely believed he was at least 3% better than the next second-best NBA player. Tom Brady believes he is at least 3% better, and the list continues.
Did you know that when you speak a negative word or expression out loud, it becomes 40-70% more powerful? Just one negative expression can set all the progress you have worked on back. All that hard work disciple goes out the window.
The human mind was designed to lean into the negative versus the positive. Remember, Caveman and cavewoman’s brain was all about survival once they left the cave. Therefore, they pondered every NEGATIVE outcome that could go wrong, and that practice continues in most humans.
Why? I think most do not realize they can impact their mindset. They can turn it into a positive mind machine developed to support them versus holding them back. Is it easy? Nope? Is it worth it, YES! Thousand times, yes. Being the driver of your destiny versus being the passenger helps grow your mindset and achieve your dreams faster.
Each person has a Blue Rose. A calling that is unique only to YOU. NO one in the Universe can do exactly what you can do. But that is what makes you a human being in this Universe.
What path will you choose? One of negative or positive thinking? Let me know in the comments.
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Epi. 85 What is Your Identity?
Patterns on replay.
What is your identity? People often confuse identity with what they do, their job, position, or pay grade. People never think about who they are at their center. Or are you much more than that?
For instance, are you Barbara, the nurse, the mother, master’s student, wife, and the list goes on? Which one? I would argue that people are a compilation of all they have accomplished from birth to death. All the experiences of a life lived to inform them of who they are.
Our stories begin shortly after birth. Children hear adults constantly talking around the, they may not understand the conversation or the words however they get locked into their subconscious as they get older if they hear the same words, to them, it’s true.
For instance, if a baby is 1 1/2 to 2 years old, an adult says geez, the baby seems slow. or not walking yet, or processing as fast, or is a chubby slow starter. Or, if they are lucky, she hears she seems really smart, advanced, and perfect in everything she does. A superstar. The baby hears this. Plus, all the chatter that surrounds them through their first 8 years can leave a profound impact on the.
People evolve and grow. As a human, one of our goals is to evolve. Constantly improve. Now that doesn’t always happen. Often people get stuck in a certain part of their story, and that ‘stuck’ place is where they remain. Never really understanding what they can’t see to move forward. With the passage of time, they lose sight of their dreams. Start settling.
Their dream changes to match the reality of where they are today. It becomes a much smaller dream and smaller identity.
Learn how to find the belief holding you back and start changing it, healing it. NOW.
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