She Leads Confidently
Epi. 85 What is Your Identity?
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What is your identity? People often confuse identity with what they do, their job, position, or pay grade. People never think about who they are at their center. Or are you much more than that?
For instance, are you Barbara, the nurse, the mother, master’s student, wife, and the list goes on? Which one? I would argue that people are a compilation of all they have accomplished from birth to death. All the experiences of a life lived to inform them of who they are.
Our stories begin shortly after birth. Children hear adults constantly talking around the, they may not understand the conversation or the words however they get locked into their subconscious as they get older if they hear the same words, to them, it’s true.
For instance, if a baby is 1 1/2 to 2 years old, an adult says geez, the baby seems slow. or not walking yet, or processing as fast, or is a chubby slow starter. Or, if they are lucky, she hears she seems really smart, advanced, and perfect in everything she does. A superstar. The baby hears this. Plus, all the chatter that surrounds them through their first 8 years can leave a profound impact on the.
People evolve and grow. As a human, one of our goals is to evolve. Constantly improve. Now that doesn’t always happen. Often people get stuck in a certain part of their story, and that ‘stuck’ place is where they remain. Never really understanding what they can’t see to move forward. With the passage of time, they lose sight of their dreams. Start settling.
Their dream changes to match the reality of where they are today. It becomes a much smaller dream and smaller identity.
Learn how to find the belief holding you back and start changing it, healing it. NOW.
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Curling toes to stop stuttering.
Mindset matters.
After walking off the stage after my Power of Positivity presentation, an older gentleman sat discreetly by the exit waiting patiently to speak with me. The story he told me brought tears to my eyes, and 100% confirmed what I always knew…the amazing power of the mind.
I often talk of my speech impediment, where I have trouble saying the letters R and S. How my English teacher encouraged me to do public speaking. Not letting a ‘small’ issue cause me not to go after my dreams. At that time, my speech was an impediment as not a small issue until she showed it was.
This gentleman told me was a paid speaker who has spoken worldwide. Both across the pond and in America. He spoke deliberately as he told me about his amazing career. He told me how my presentation hit home, and he had to tell his story.
He has a speech impediment as well. When he was in school, HIS English teacher encouraged him not to quit. She told him that if he trusted her, she could show him how not to stutter when he spoke. Of course, he waited eagerly for the miracle she was about to offer.
She told him to curl his toes when he got up to speak. He had no idea how that would work, but he tried it. And he DID NOT stutter. And from that moment on, when he does public speaking, he curls his toes.
What an amazing story! Mindset matters.
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#83 Why are YOU not a Millionaire?
Confessions of a Life Coach
I was recently asked that, and it caused me to pause. One of my customers asked me ‘How am I not a millionaire?’. I had to ask her why she thought that.
She stated how much I changed her life, and why am I not sharing my gift. Why am I not helping more people?
What a great question. What is it? Why do I not share? It comes so naturally to me. I can see people as they could be if only, they believe in themselves. Too darn many women do not see their greatness. They undervalue, undercharge, and don’t think they are worthy for people to pay for your services.
She believes the Universe is mad at me. Why? I don’t share my gift with others and the Universe believes it’s wasted talent. Could be right, could be wrong. I know everyone has a unique talent and it’s up to them to share. It’s up to them to step into the gift they have been given and be serious about it. Take yourself seriously and stop getting stuck in the BS. Stop being average when you can be extraordinary. Stop accepting crackers and cheese (see my opined TIKTOK post to see what I mean.)
Your time to become the women you are capable is NOW. Time to Find Your Blue Rose.
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