She Leads Confidently
Epi #76 How Do You View Power?
How you view it determines your inner power.
Many years ago when I was in the US Air Force as a medic I learned a lesson that ‘stuck’ to me. Working in the ICU one evening a general’s wife was brought into the unit. She had no reason to be there other than, in my opinion, to hide her. She was severely dehydrated, had sores all over her body and fecal matter impacted in her skin, and weighed 98 pounds.
She was an alcoholic. No judgment here. But her husband would make fun of her (she told us that while healing) and his poker buddies would throw things at her while she lay on the couch. Of course, at the ripe age of 20, I was indeed judgmental and thought why don’t you stand up to him. Yup, naïve as well.
Then I got mad. I went to our charge nurse, who was a full bird colonel, one step from becoming a general, and asked him to do something. His response was what??? The general outranked probable all but one person on the whole base. I was shocked. Disappointed but the way the General would parade around demanding to be waited on. He eventually took his wife home and life went on.
BUT it haunted me. During that episode, I learned ‘Rank has Privileged.’ Didn’t matter how powerful you thought you were, or are, there is always someone more powerful. If you have trauma in your life, as I do, I walked away with people with authority who can do whatever they want.
Until recently I had a lifelong battle with authority and power. An interesting combination when you consider I am a CEO. If someone talked aggressively (at least how I defined aggression) I would fold like a cheap suit.
I had to reconnect to that memory, recreate a new version with an empowered ending, and reclaim power as I chose to define it.
It continues to amaze me how an event in our lives will be carried for a lifetime. That if left unhealed, I would never have the confidence I have. The life I have. The Business I have.
When you seem stuck and have no idea why…look backward to propel yourself forward.
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Epi $75 None of Your Business What People Think about YOU.
Mind your business
What people think about you is none of your business. Way too many of us worry about what others say think or act towards us. It took me years to understand it’s not my business.
Caring about what others think about me bothers me and in turn, undermines my mindset. When you worry about what others are thinking it erodes your confidence.
Make you hesitate from moving forward with your dreams. The reason why it’s truly none of your business is you can not control another view of their world. And your role in that world.
Each person has a worldview filled with beliefs, judgments, and prejudices. One person may view you in one light while another in a totally different way. I know this sounds offbeat, nonsensical, but flipping your thinking to support you is the key to personal happiness…and success,
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Epi #74 Stop Asking Permission.
The secret to a happy and fulfilling life.
Far too many women are waiting for permission before they move forward. Especially women over 55. You found over the course of your life following the rules had a much better, kinder impact than not. Throughout school, people placed a lot of expectations on you. As you got older you were stuck.
You had spent your whole life making others happy. Doing whatever you need to do for everyone around you be happy. If there is any trauma in your life, asking for permission is on overdrive. It’s how you have earned to survive. Asking for permission.
If you’re like me, you are shaking your head saying nope not me. I thought the same thing. Then I thought of all my coaching clients and thought about the different ways they Ask Permission? I heard phrases like, I’m too old for this, right? Why won’t anyone help me? What will _____ think about me or my idea? My friend won’t accept me. It’s too hard.
Does this sound familiar? If so, Stop Asking for permission from an outside source. Start trusting yourself. Know that you are an extremely capable woman. Be fearlessly confident and step into the person you were meant to be.
Start living your best life, now.
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