She Leads Confidently
#69 Who Am I, Really
Know Thyself
Who am I, Now? Take time to know whyself.
Setting down to do my yearly goal setting January 3 as I do every year. The first question is ask is who am I. I learned well rather admitted to myself I hate sharing personal info. I will share about trauma, overcoming obstacles, and raging failures but there are other areas that will not.
In my day job, I do extremely well. But in my side hustle, I never seem to gain traction. Now I’m an extremely confident woman so WTF. Why am I holding myself? I kept asking myself that question over and over until I had a vision.
The vision was of me sitting on an island. Alone. Pacing. Pacing back and other. Because on the other island was a large group of people having a blast. Celebrating, toasting each other, laughing, and complete joy. Occasionally they would look over at me and wave me over Screaming come on, come over.
But I can’t. Why? There is a rope bridge that I must cross. The bridge is unstable over shark-infested water. Yup, I was letting fear win. My goal, my desire was not bigger than my fear.
I also realized I wasn’t being truthful with my folks. However, I want them to tell me their issues, their weakness while I wasn’t sharing. I wasn’t showing up in a way that I demand of myself.
In 2022 I am committing I will show up I a major way. I will show you my success along with my failures. Where I fall down but I promise I will always get back up. And if you fall, I will help YOU GET BACK up and keep moving forward. My commitment to you is that if you do the work, I will do my best to help you get to where you desire.
Let’s cross the bridge together.
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Epi #68 What is Your One Reason?
Your Burning Desire!
It is very hard to get up at 4:30 am to exercise, work on your book, coach an overseas client or just start your day. If you don’t know your reason for accomplishing all you want to accomplish it most likely will not happen. It’s so important to know what your fall on the sword moment is. The place your mind goes to motivate you when you are exhausted, hungry and just done with it. When you have your reason, it is easier to flip that mental switch. The switch that will help you keep going.
People say successful people are different. Sure, they are made different because they discovered the importance of knowing their reason. Why. What does the end game look like for them? Successful people have this burning desire. They MUST accomplish their dreams. They are able to push themselves because they see the finish line. Now that line maybe is 50, 60, 80 years down the line but they know exactly what it looks like for them.
Most likely they have their goals are written down, affirmations at the ready. They can tell you to the smallest of detail what the end game looks like, smells like, who will be with them. They know because that is what fuels them. Drives them to keep going.
It is harder than it looks to post in 5 different places, do videos across different platforms, launch programs, converse with the team and customers, attend meetings into the late evening, tape podcasts, and the list goes on. But they do it. Why? Ask them. But be prepared for the very specific answer.
The obvious next question is What is Your Burning Desire?
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#67 What Your Judge in Others
Will Come Back at You
Judging other people’s looks, actions, money, how they talk, and weight is a human issue. No other animal on the planet judges others like humans. Unfortunately, too many were judged as children and carried that forward.
There is one negative, actually, a very negative outcome from judging others harshly. What you see in others that you dislike is contained within you. It’s a Universal law that what you see in others is a reflection if you see something you don’t like –within you. So when you see something in someone else you wish you had, guess what, you do!
Using the Judging technique is an excellent method to use when looking to make transformations in your life. Areas you may be stuck, blocked, or looking for Shadows hidden within. It is always Clue Alert when you have an adverse reaction to outside stimuli. Take the time and ask why you dislike that trait. What is the response you have to it, and how did it make you feel? Was it a visceral reaction?
Sit with the emotion and look back at when you experienced that same emotion when you had the same outcome. Once you can see the story, the next step begins. Tell yourself a different story. A story that supports and empowers you versus one that makes you feel less than and playing small. The name of transformation is reprogramming your mind by recreating a new, better, more supportive story.
Once you learn to use Judging as a way to help move you forward, you win the inner game.
Does this make sense?
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