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Epi #58 It is Your Choice!
Choose to Own Your Power!
It has always been your choice. You choose what you desire they say. Ask the Universe, visualize it happening, stay positive, and it will appear.
When I first heard this, I thought it was a bunch of BS. Who would choose any form of trauma in their life? Choose to be poor, abuse, left alone to fend for themselves, discarded, live in a war-torn country where women are preyed upon. Who would choose that? We do. It’s all part of our human experience.
Once I was able to make peace with ‘It’s a Choice,’ my life changed. When people decide to make, change things will begin to shift.
The Universe will shine a light on the path for you to follow. The challenge is believing and trusting that it can be that easy. Trusting that the Universe is here to support all your efforts. Sadly, as humans, people find it hard to believe it’s just that easy.
I know it did. I fought and pushed back when good appeared and embraced bad. Bad outcomes became a friend that I recognized. Actually, I would subconsciously seek negative outcomes out. I did not understand that there were Shadows buried and potential buried within these Shadows.
Then I understood.
Like Glinda the Good Witch said in the Wizard of Oz, YOU HAVE THE POWER ALL ALONG, MY DEAR.
It’s Your Choice!
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Why do People become People Pleasers?
I was surprised.
Why do many women become people pleasers? An interesting question that I have spent a long time pondering. Wondering why. Is it a self-esteem issue? Childhood trauma? Teenage challenges? Divorce? Toxic relations?
All of these reasons and many more. Programming, commercials, the list goes on. People find themselves pleaser so as not to be harmed, criticized, or bullied. Often this behavior begins over safety concerns. They often find it easier to go along with things instead of pushing back. Over the course of years, their behavior is reinforced by those around them. They attract people who seek out people pleasers. For many women being a people pleaser truly does not negatively impact their life. They have learned, in their mind, the power of going along to get along.
You see, I recognized people, as pleasers because I was one on steroids. I made the average please look like a rookie. I would always go along choosing the path of least resistant. I would not ask for things I truly desired so as not to upset anyone. This behavior drove my husband nuts. He constantly told me to say no, to ask for what I wanted. I would build up the courage to do just that until a dirty look, a pause, a cross word, someone criticizing me, and I would hide.
Growing up with a highly critical mother and a father who worked seven days a week, I was left alone. When my father would call home every evening for his 30 min call, he talked to my brother about sports, my sister about math then there was me. Bless his heart, he also needed to eat lunch and try to catch his breath during those 30 minutes. When it was my turn to talk, I would sense he was in a hurry and say all was good. I struggled in school but subconsciously thought no one had time, so why would I?
This is how people pleasing can start. You want attention and learn bad attention is better than no attention, which can lead you down a very dark path.
If these podcast triggers you, or sound familiar, take the time to research, I wish I had understood what this was before I was in my early 60s.
Here is a definition of a people pleaser. https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412
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Epi #57 Simone Biles – Goat & World Changer
Her calling was Greater than she knew.
I think everyone on this planet know the Simone Bile sat out most of the Olympics with mental health issues. As the Goat in the world of Gymnastics she could have remained silence, but she chose not to. Courageous decision. She could have muscled through to make everyone happy.
Instead, she used her large platform to discuss mental health issues. Simone has a much larger PURPOSE, she discussed the sexual abuse she endured as a gymnast on the USA Olympics Team. When she arrived in Japan, she was clear that as the lone voice left on the team, she felt obligated to make sure the USA Olympics didn’t convenient forget. That was her overarching Momentous goal.
You see, when you tell your mind what your gargantuan goal is, your mind gets to work immediately to figure out how to make that happen. I’m sure that is not where the twisties came from, but I truly believe she had this amazing platform, so the Mind thinks… let’s get started, NOW.
As a bonus, Simone sitting out propelled the other gymnast on the USA Team to step into the spotlight. Each one of them won medals including the all-around team event. (It’s awesome that two of them are from the East Valley in Phoenix.)
When you have a momentous overarching goal and direct your mind, your mind will get to work and make it happen. That is exactly why it’s important to know what you want moving forward so your mind can make it happen.
Thank you Simone for being the GOAT and most important a WORLD CHANGER.
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