She Leads Confidently
Epi #59 Shadow and True Transformation
Making real change within
When people transform their lives it must involves shadow work at some point in time. Until people get to the root of the issue holding them back makes it is very hard to heal. These Shadows are repressed parts of your personality that others rejected. This rejection settled in your Soul and has remained hidden until you made the decision to seek it out.
Contained within this Shadow is Your Gift. Many times it’s your purpose in this world. Your reason for being. When you heal them you no longer are confused or ‘unfocused’ you have clarity and the courage to move forward.
Everyone wants confidence. A direction to seek in their life. Start the journey within and seek the answers to the questions that bounce around in your head. You know the questions. The WHY ________ question you have. The Why did this happen or that happened?
Then the day comes when you know like you know WHO you are and WHY. Are you Ready?
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Epi #58 It is Your Choice!
Choose to Own Your Power!
It has always been your choice. You choose what you desire they say. Ask the Universe, visualize it happening, stay positive, and it will appear.
When I first heard this, I thought it was a bunch of BS. Who would choose any form of trauma in their life? Choose to be poor, abuse, left alone to fend for themselves, discarded, live in a war-torn country where women are preyed upon. Who would choose that? We do. It’s all part of our human experience.
Once I was able to make peace with ‘It’s a Choice,’ my life changed. When people decide to make, change things will begin to shift.
The Universe will shine a light on the path for you to follow. The challenge is believing and trusting that it can be that easy. Trusting that the Universe is here to support all your efforts. Sadly, as humans, people find it hard to believe it’s just that easy.
I know it did. I fought and pushed back when good appeared and embraced bad. Bad outcomes became a friend that I recognized. Actually, I would subconsciously seek negative outcomes out. I did not understand that there were Shadows buried and potential buried within these Shadows.
Then I understood.
Like Glinda the Good Witch said in the Wizard of Oz, YOU HAVE THE POWER ALL ALONG, MY DEAR.
It’s Your Choice!
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Why do People become People Pleasers?
I was surprised.
Why do many women become people pleasers? An interesting question that I have spent a long time pondering. Wondering why. Is it a self-esteem issue? Childhood trauma? Teenage challenges? Divorce? Toxic relations?
All of these reasons and many more. Programming, commercials, the list goes on. People find themselves pleaser so as not to be harmed, criticized, or bullied. Often this behavior begins over safety concerns. They often find it easier to go along with things instead of pushing back. Over the course of years, their behavior is reinforced by those around them. They attract people who seek out people pleasers. For many women being a people pleaser truly does not negatively impact their life. They have learned, in their mind, the power of going along to get along.
You see, I recognized people, as pleasers because I was one on steroids. I made the average please look like a rookie. I would always go along choosing the path of least resistant. I would not ask for things I truly desired so as not to upset anyone. This behavior drove my husband nuts. He constantly told me to say no, to ask for what I wanted. I would build up the courage to do just that until a dirty look, a pause, a cross word, someone criticizing me, and I would hide.
Growing up with a highly critical mother and a father who worked seven days a week, I was left alone. When my father would call home every evening for his 30 min call, he talked to my brother about sports, my sister about math then there was me. Bless his heart, he also needed to eat lunch and try to catch his breath during those 30 minutes. When it was my turn to talk, I would sense he was in a hurry and say all was good. I struggled in school but subconsciously thought no one had time, so why would I?
This is how people pleasing can start. You want attention and learn bad attention is better than no attention, which can lead you down a very dark path.
If these podcast triggers you, or sound familiar, take the time to research, I wish I had understood what this was before I was in my early 60s.
Here is a definition of a people pleaser. https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412
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