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#36 Self Labels and Negative Self-Talk
Sabotaging Behavior.
Labels are used every day on food, products, commercials, and on people. The problem is your label or how you label yourself determines your success or failure in many situations. Self Labels and negative self-talk go hand in hand.
Sounds harsh, I know. That label can determine the self-talk you have within whether it will be positive or negative. For instance, you tell yourself you are fat. or out of shape and need to lose weight. But your inner mind hears and repeats your fat. (Weight loss is an excellent example of how labeling can define a person. However, any explanation would work your not smart. You don’t deserve good things. The great jobs go to suck-ups, and you’re not a suck-up.)
When women then venture out to try something new, go shopping, girls night out, a first date, the script she keeps running is the I’m fat, nothing fits, I look terrible, and the self-sabotaging begins. The inner self-talk is off to the races repeating ALL the negative things you have ever heard about weight. You then shrink, go back into the self-imposed cage, and remain stuck.
Check out this article that can better explain self-sabotaging behavior. https://www.healyourlife.com/tags/self-sabotage
This behavior can heal when you refuse to allow negative thinking to take up residence in your mind. Relisten to my podcast episode #26 Others peoples Opinion of You https://karenbarno.com/opinions-of-you/
When you control your inner negative voice, you will begin to ignite your possibilities and Find Your Blue Rose.
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Find Your Blue Rose-New Beginning!
A Blue rose is impossible to create. When you see a Blue Rose you can be assured it was dyed blue. That makes the blue rose mystical, magical, and representative of a new beginning and new opportunities.
Live an enchanted life. When you are looking for your purpose, calling, your blue rose know that your passion is hiding in your dreams. Look at what you think about all the time, Dream about it, think about it when you are dreaming, eating, driving. But sometimes what you are great at comes easy people reject it.
Thinking it just can’t be that easy. I’m here to tell you…it is. Sure you need to roll up your sleeves and get to work but it will be work you love to do. Take action today on your dream. Make it happen.
Find You Blue Rose. If you are interested in helping to find your passion, your calling, check out my coaching program. If you would like an introductory call just shoot me a DM and we will set something up.
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Epi 34 Learned Helplessness, Shadow Blocks🗣 ,and You! 💥
Learned Helplessness is a mental health term used to describe people who repeat a pattern. What is Learned Helplessness? In psychology, it’s a mental state in which a person is forced to bear painful or otherwise unpleasant stimuli. They become unable or unwilling to avoid subsequent encounters with those stimuli because it has learned that it cannot.
This behavior can appear in people who have been traumatized. Or have been beaten down. When the same action takes place later, they shut down. Most people don’t realize they have the behavior.
Then a trigger occurs, and they completely shut down. They’re stuck in the trauma memory. Helpless again.
The way to heal is to look within at the trauma and understand it happened to you, and YOU are not at fault. But this is a lesson for another day.
Recognize the signs of slipping into the victim mentality. When that happens, know how to ‘shake it off.’
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