Learned Helplessness is a mental health term used to describe people who repeat a pattern. What is Learned Helplessness? In psychology, it’s a mental state in which a person is forced to bear painful or otherwise unpleasant stimuli. They become unable or unwilling to avoid subsequent encounters with those stimuli because it has learned that it cannot.

This behavior can appear in people who have been traumatized. Or have been beaten down. When the same action takes place later, they shut down. Most people don’t realize they have the behavior.

Then a trigger occurs, and they completely shut down. They’re stuck in the trauma memory. Helpless again.

The way to heal is to look within at the trauma and understand it happened to you, and YOU are not at fault. But this is a lesson for another day.

Recognize the signs of slipping into the victim mentality. When that happens, know how to ‘shake it off.’

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Plan, Prepare, Promote, and Prosper

4 P’s for Success’ Formula
After studying countless successful people through interviews or books, I learned they all have success patterns they follow religiously. All success leaves a clue. Most of them follow the 4 Ps of success.

First P is Planning. If you don’t know what the end looks like, how will you recognize it when it arrives. Begin with the end in mind. Plan what success will look like to you. What will you be doing, who will you be with, how are your raving fans doing. Write it down and visualize it as if it’s already has happened. Have as much detail that you can. Then start working backward, mapping out the path you plan to walk.

Understand that flying by your pants’ seat may work in certain parts of your life, but not when starting a business. Not having a plan will eventually hold you back. Creating an online course required many moving parts that entrepreneurs use must plan for during their journey.

I never planned to do videos, build classes, or coach well, you get the picture. Until the day, I asked my audience what they wanted to study the next week, and I heard crickets. In the end, everyone didn’t know what exactly what was my area of focus.

I was neither purposeful nor thoughtful. Please don’t make the same mistake!

The next P is Prepare. Another area I was subpar during my first few years. I would kind of prepare but never as much as is needed to be successful. Learn to write down your scripts for videos. It doesn’t need to be word for word but an outline to keep you on track.

Have an outline, a general idea, a complete roadmap, whatever works for you. Make sure you’re ready for all potential outcomes.

The third P is to Promote. Promoting can be the most challenging part of the 4 P’s and your journey in building your business. Many women have a challenge putting themselves out there and drawing attention to themselves. However, you can’t sell without promotion, so they go hand in hand. We can work together to build your confidence in this area.

The final P is Prosper. When you prosper in making money, you know all the puzzle pieces are in their proper place. Making money tells you that the other P’s are working. If you are not making money…let’s talk.

Here’s to the 4 Ps of SUCCESS in your life!!!

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Energy Vampires is an often-used word to describe those who seem to drain energy. There are different energy vampires. Those who steal your energy for a bit and those who drain it entirely leave an empty shell behind.

The ones who drain a bit of energy are not vampires. Most do not realize they are drainers because they were just ‘raised’ needing power from another source. Unable to get the required ‘refueling’ from within, they seek it from another source. Once they learn the skills to manage their emotions and power, they’ll discontinue the need to suck others’ energy.

Energy Vampires, true Energy Vampires, suck all the energy from the victim’s bones. Leaving battered and bruised people in their wake. Energy Vampires are like a ghost ship traveling alone, looking for their next victim.

An empty, unfulfilled, and sad person.

They look around, layout their net, find the perfect person, and then integrate themselves into that person’s life. They become the most essential person in the office. Volunteering for extra work, arriving early, and staying late. Before their ‘victim’ knows it, they handle their calls while slowing degrading the people around them.

That is the first hint you have an energy vampire in your mist!

Hint two, They could teach a class in drama. Why? Nothing in their life goes well according to them. Their stories are funny and engaging and designed to reel you in as they increase the energy-sucking.

Eventually, their victims understand what is occurring, and the relationship ends. Typically not well.

When people make comments such as you could be sisters, you are so much alike, or comparing your both…run!

You have an Energy Vampire in your mist.

Questions? Ask away.

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