Hello, and welcome to this video blog about the difference between an identity shift and transformation when making changes in your life. First, let’s define what we mean by these terms. An identity shift refers to a change in how we see ourselves, our beliefs, and our values. It involves a shift in our sense of identity and who we believe ourselves to be. On the other hand, transformation involves a significant change in our behavior and habits, resulting in a significant change in our lives.

Now, it’s essential to understand that an identity shift can lead to transformation, but not all identity shifts necessarily result in transformation. For example, if you identify as a smoker and you make the shift to identify as a non-smoker, but you don’t change your behavior, you won’t experience transformation. Transformation requires action, and it’s the actions we take that create lasting change. Identifying as a non-smoker is the first step, but it’s the decision to quit smoking and take action toward that goal that creates transformation.

So, how do we create lasting change in our lives? We start by identifying the beliefs and values that are holding us back and making an intentional shift in how we see ourselves. For example, if you’ve always identified as someone who is bad with money but you want to change that, start by identifying as someone who is financially responsible.

Next, take action toward your new identity. If you want to be financially responsible, start by creating a budget and sticking to it. Take steps towards paying off debt and saving for the future. Remember, creating lasting change requires both an identity shift and transformational action. When we change how we see ourselves and take action toward our goals, we can create a life that aligns with our true selves. So, start by identifying the beliefs and values that are holding you back and make an intentional shift toward your true identity.

Then, take action towards your goals, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never thought possible. I hope this video blog has been helpful in understanding the difference between an identity shift and transformation when making changes in your life. Remember, you have the power to create lasting change in your life.

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Happy Valentine’s Day, everybody! Today, I want to talk about something that is often overlooked when we talk about love – self-love. It’s a term that is often thrown around, but do we really understand what it means and how important it is? As a female confidence coach, I believe that self-love is the foundation of confidence and the key to living a fulfilling life.

I was recently on a call with 11 influential women, and the topic of discussion was self-love. To my surprise, only three women actually discussed the topic. It made me realize that self-love is still such a taboo subject that people avoid discussing it. It’s seen as selfish or indulgent, but it’s far from it. Self-love is about putting yourself first and taking care of your needs.

So, what is self-love? It’s about accepting yourself for who you are, flaws and all. It’s about being kind to yourself and treating yourself with the same love and respect you would give to your closest friend. It’s about setting boundaries, saying no when you need to, and prioritizing your well-being.

Self-love is essential for building confidence. When you love yourself, you are more likely to take risks, pursue your passions, and stand up for yourself. You are less likely to settle for less than you deserve and more likely to attract positive relationships into your life.

This Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to practice self-love. Take some time to do something that brings you joy, whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, or reading a good book. Write down things that you love about yourself and make a list of your accomplishments. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, and remember that you are worthy of love and respect.

Remember, self-love is not selfish. It’s necessary for living a fulfilling life and being the best version of yourself. So, this Valentine’s Day, make a commitment to love yourself more and watch your confidence soarl

Thank you for listening to today’s podcast. I hope you found it informative and helpful. Until next time, take care and stay sober!

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Let’s talk about something that is very important to me, and that is the hidden costs of constantly retelling my trauma story.

Many of us who have experienced trauma may feel the need to share our story with others, whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or just talking to friends and family. While this can be a helpful way to process and cope with our trauma, it’s important to recognize that constantly retelling our story can also have negative consequences. One of the hidden costs of constantly retelling our trauma story is that it can prevent us from moving forward and healing.

When we are constantly reliving our trauma through our words, it can be difficult to let go and move on. Additionally, retelling our story can also trigger feelings of distress and anxiety, making it difficult to fully heal and recover. Another hidden cost is that it can be draining and tiring to constantly have to relive and share our trauma.

It can be emotionally taxing and can lead to feelings of exhaustion and burnout. Furthermore, constantly retelling our trauma story can also make it difficult to maintain healthy relationships, as it can be overwhelming for friends and family to hear about our trauma over and over again.

It’s important to remember that healing from trauma is a process, and it’s okay to take a break from talking about our trauma if we need to. It’s also important to find other ways to cope and process our trauma, such as through therapy, journaling, or creative outlets. Remember, constantly retelling our trauma story can have hidden costs, and it’s important to be mindful of this and take care of ourselves as we heal and recover.

Thank you for watching, here’s to Finding Your Blue Rose.

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