She Leads Confidently
Don’t allow the pain of shame to win!
Everything is Overcomeable!
I want to talk to you about when, when the pain gets too much, when is it too much regret Too much shame, too much, really anything that you’re really ready to make the decision to change I’m Karen Barno, welcome to my Facebook live. You know, when I think back to the path I took to get to where I am, I find it an interesting juncture of how you, you’ll get to that point when it’s just, you’re just ready to change. And it happens when, again, when the pain’s too much. And I kind of, for me, I go back to when I was, um, I would go to board meetings is so
And it really came to a head because I had to go back to Washington DC for lobbying days and are standing outside Senator McCain’s office, rest in peace, I was waiting to meet with him and his staff. And I was really
And I thought, I’ve got to figure out how to fix this. So I started putting pieces together and this would work, but this wouldn’t work. And I read every, I read, probably not, no lie, a thousand self-help personal development books. I have all Tony Robbins stuff. I’ve got Jim wrong, Brian Tracy, you know, the old easy goodies, the new ones, you know, Gabby Bernstein, I’ve, I’ve got them all. And I, you know, what works for one didn’t work for me. So I put things together and I finally, I wrote a book, seven steps to, um, transforming your life and business and finds your blue Rose, you know, didn’t sell well, not, didn’t sell well because at that time I wasn’t ready to put myself out there either. I, I like to kind of stay in the background, which is odd because of the position I’m in, but I wasn’t ready because I had just had so much guilt and anxiety over why I couldn’t get out of my own way.
Why couldn’t I quit drinking Why was I homeless at one point Why did things not work out for me Because it seemed like things would work out really well and then I would blow them up because I wasn’t ready to accept good things into my life. So I kept putting stuff together and you know, during workbooks and figuring things out. So I finally, and on Monday I’m going to debut it. It’s my five proven steps to healing your childhood shadow in print and reclaiming your power. Everything begins and ends with our subconscious mind. Everything begins and ends with what’s inside of us. So when you do things and you don’t realize why you’re doing it, you know when you have a big meeting the next day and you feel the need to just drink and drink and drink or are you, you know, you get money and you, you spend it on stupid things because you just don’t want anything good to happen in your life.
You can’t accept good. So you’re always pushing it away or you, you do everything you can to keep yourself in shame. I had to develop this program because once I started figuring things out, my life started falling and falling in pieces. You know, I quit drinking like a full, like quit, you know, doing stupid things and making super stupid decisions and spending money stupidly and doing everything I could to keep myself in the pain of shame and regret. And when you have trauma in your background, you are constantly dealing with it. You don’t even realize you’re running that tape. And the first thing you have to figure out is what story are you constantly running in your mind What story do you default to You know, when things aren’t going well, what does that first voice you hear I used to hear, you know, you’re so stupid, you know what’s wrong with you
Nobody will like you because you’re so stupid. You know you’re so this, you’re so that and I w I, you have to figure that stuff out. But you can’t just sit there and say, I’ll heal. You have to be willing to heal yourself. You have to be willing to take the time to dig in to your subconscious mind. And what comments were said to you that you carried with you. So you know, I’ll talk more about this obviously over the next couple of weeks with my program debuting. I just want you to know that if you have trauma in your childhood, if you have, if you’re not where you want to be, if you’re not the exact person you pitch yourself to be, or if you keep settling, you keep settling for less than you know, you could do this. But you settle for that, then let’s work together.
Let me help you because I want everybody in this world, everybody in this world to be at peace, inner peace. You know the world itself. Uh, who knows But I want everybody in this world to be an inner peace. I want everybody to be happy and I want people to, especially women, I want us to stop living in regret, especially when you grow at things that weren’t even your fault. It was done to you, not by you. So you know, tune in Monday when I talk a little more about my class. But I want you to know that if you’re in pain, I can help you get out of pain. I really can help you. I hope this helped. If you have any questions, let me know. Leave comments below. Um, stop living in shame. Stop living in regret. Stop living a less than life. Live a more life you’re put on this world earth for a purpose. Step into your purpose and be great. Talk to you later.
Self-Sabotaging behavior is a result of Shadows.
Shadows hid in your Subconscious.
What is standing in your way?
Good morning. I want to talk to you about how to sabotage behaviors; self-sabotaging yourself is a way to hide shadows. No shadows are the bruises left on our soul. The bruises left on us of from people that didn’t like something about us didn’t approve of something about us. So they made snide comments that we, we took seriously. It could have been, why aren’t you’re a chubby little girl, so you become a chubby adult or my mother’s case, you know, I had the fat gene because my Nana was back. Come to find out, and there’s no such thing as a fat gene. Who Knew But when we sabotage ourselves, it’s our way of protecting ourselves from finding the shadows. Because when we see a major shadows, the big ones, the overarching ones, it, it hurts because we have to pull back the curtain on a bad memory and nobody wants to do that.
By the way, I’m Karen Barno, welcome to my Facebook live. Our shadows hide in many, many ways, but one of the quick way to kind of start looking for them is to figure out how do you keep getting in your way Are you playing small or your pleaser Do do you avoid confrontation at all costs When you start seeing success in your life Do you throw out the anchor Cause I used to be one that I would throw out the anchor as I called it. I’d start getting successful, and I would be too much because I didn’t have that self-worth that I was worth having that level of success. So you kind of have to sit back and look at your life. If you have what you want in your life. If you have what you want, your life that Kudos.
But very few people, if any, I have ran into through all my VIP coaching, everybody has shadows. So I developed this in this ebook. Um, how to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior. And it’s a couple steps. It’s a five page ebook, it’s easy to read. It helps you start thinking about how to recognize your self sabotaging behavior because of it’s something that you’ve done since you were a child. Then it’s hard to recognize because it’s, it’s just part of your pattern. It’s part of your makeup. You know If you’re, if you’re a pleaser, that it’s hard for you to realize you’re a pleaser unless somebody finally looks at you and said, what did you just knock it off and quit being a pleaser And even then you’ll just be like, well, that person just doesn’t like me, so I’m gonna move on. If you, if you have weight challenges, it’s wives just always been like this, or I don’t know, I just like to eat.
You know, I love chocolate chip cookies, so I just love chocolate chip cookies. But I really had to start looking back to see where it started. You know, we’re, we’re this genesis of it came from and it came from being abused, but my inability to lose weight came from the fact that I pat Jean. So I had an excuse. So once you begin to recognize what you’re doing, it’s the patterns you run to sit back. If you think, you know, I’ve always wanted this job, but I’ve never had it. I’ve always wanted to start this business, but I haven’t, or I wanted this level of success. Figure out what patterns you’re running. Maybe you’ve always wanted to own your own business and you’ve always said to said there, but I want to make $1 million. I want to make six figures. I want to make 50,000 but maybe money isn’t really what you want.
Maybe you’re sending the money because it’s a way to sabotage yourself. Maybe you’re putting, you’re putting money up as this and money’s awesome. Don’t get me wrong, you’re putting money up, but money, you have a sabotaging belief of money. You believe that people that have money are greedy. People that have money are mean. People that have money, don’t take care of others. People that have money aren’t spiritual. That is so rampant in a spiritual world. You know, I shouldn’t have money just to set the record straight. Jesus Christ was a millionaire. I mean, you got to think back to that time. If you follow the Bible, there it is. Money is not evil. There’s nothing wrong with money, but we put stuff around money. So say that you had that money thing. So you’re trying to start this business. You know, I had a client, whenever I talk about my clients, they have, you know, cleared me to talk about their issues, but not of course their names. I had a client that wanted to make seven figures and she teetered right around seven figures. Yes, seven figures. She teetered right around it and she’d get over it and then she’d come right back and she couldn’t figure it out. So we sat down and we worked together for, we did some VIP sessions cause it was really very deep. It was because her father was extremely successful, but he said, you’ll never break seven figures because I couldn’t.
That’s how shadows are. And that one little comment caused her a lifetime of self-sabotaging behavior. These one little comments, you know, having a speech impediment and being told you’re special need. That one comment makes you think that your special needs until something happens that you start realizing, let me back up. Let me see where this, where this common came from. So if you don’t have what you’re seeking in your life, you’ve got to look within and how you’re sabotaging. Now there’s other ways to heal your shadows and then look at them and I talk about them on my five step, my five proven steps to healing your charters that are imprint and reclaiming your power online class at the abuse at the end of the month. But right now, just go over and grab my, um, eliminate self-sabotaging behavior, five-page evil. I’ll put the link behind. Just start thinking about how you’re getting in your own way and start realizing these are other people’s self-fulfilling prophecies for you.
They’re not your prophecies, and they’re not your, your course. They’re not your path, your vision there is somebody else’s. So stop living somebody else’s dream and step in and start living your dream. Start living the life you were born to live. So let’s get started. If you have any questions, please write them in the comments below. If you’re on youtube, gimme a subscribed, all buttons below. We’re going to be talking about this. If you follow me for a long time. You know, I talk about this all the time cause I think it’s so important. But I do think one of the keys is how do you self sabotage yourself How do you get in your own way Let me know if you have any questions. You guys take care. Have a great day. Bye Bye.
Blue Rose, New Beginning and Midlife.
Midlife, Purpose and What’s Next
Hello, how are you? Welcome. I want to talk to you today about the meaning of a Blue Rose and hey everything you see with me is Blue Rose. And it’s funny, I’m talking about the meaning of the Blue Rose and I have a red blouse on. But that’s how it goes. By the way, I’m Karen Barno. Welcome to Find Your Blue Rose and discover the Blue Rose Inner Circle.
The meaning of a Blue Rose. Blue Roses are genetically impossible to create. That’s why when you go to flower stores, you won’t see a true Blue Rose. You’ll see dyed Blue Roses.
When somebody tells you to Find Your Blue Rose, they’re saying, find your new beginning. Find your What’s Next. What are you supposed to be doing in this world now? You know, don’t look back at your past successes. We all do. We all look back at what we’ve succeeded in, but when we get to that point in our life or we’re trying to figure out what we’re going to do next, think of your Blue Rose. Think of what would help enlighten you. What would it be Mystical, magical in your life, what would make your heart sing?
That’s what F
To put the proverbial stick in the ground and say, this is me. This is who I am moving forward. And when you do that, first of all, your everything starts shifting in your life. When you’re ready to step up and say, I’ve done all this in my life and it’s been great, but now I’m ready to find my Blue Rose.
I’m ready to start a new chapter, a new beginning. And it can be a new beginning. It can be when we send our children from third grade to fourth grade, from the high school to college, from marriage to divorce to whatever, every step of the ways in new beginning. So you’re finding you Blue Rose, your Blue Rose is a spiritual journey.
A Blue Rose means that you’re willing to take the time to look at who you are. You’re ready to take the time to be honest with who you are and honest what you want. You start being reflective. You stop looking around for approval from everybody else. You stop asking everybody else. Where do you think, what do you think. What do you think And you’ll say, you know, darn it, I don’t care what y’all think. I love you guys. I’ll listen to your opinion and this is what I think. This is what I want to do. And something like that has a tendency to come with age.
As we get older, especially women, as we get older and enter midlife or our better act, we get more comfortable and saying, you know, I’m ready to make that change. I’m ready to do this or to do that. So when you do that, just think, what is my Blue Rose
What is my spiritual gift?Why am I here? What’s my purpose? The Blue Rose Inner Circleis what I developed to help a community of women join together so we can support one another, so we can work together to help everybody, you know, lift everybody up.
Especially in this time, right now, when everything is so contentious and everybody’s filled with rage and, and I hate to say hate. We’re losing our spiritual guideline. We’re getting caught up in the rhetoric of social media. We’re getting caught up in the papers. We’re getting caught up. Instead of repeating it, step back and say no, I’ve got my Blue Rose, I’ve got my north star. My north star is finding my Blue Rose. My north star is trying to figure out what suits me perfectly because each one on us has a specific gift to be here.
We all have a specific purpose. If you’re even kind of thinking, Eh, you know, I like my job at this, or I like this, then you’re not standing in your purpose.
Because when you’re in your purpose, when you’re where you’re supposed to be, you’re in the flow.
Everything works out for you. I mean, sure you’ll run into bumps and bruises along the way, but everything works out because you’re in where you’re supposed to be.
You’re in your zone of excellence. Everything flows to you and money works out as well.
You found Your Blue Rose, and as people we evolve, we grow. The job that I thought was the greatest job ever 40, 50 years ago, I look at now thinking so that was okay. But at the time it was a greatest job ever. I got to work up the newspaper. I was happy when I was in the US Air Force as a Medic. It was the greatest job ever. But you outgrow things because you’re evolving.
If you’re carrying the light of Blue Rose, if you’re carrying that Glow, you’re constantly evolvingand questioning. Am I happy, is this, does this serve me, Is this what I wanna do?
Am I fulfilled doing what I’m doing? And that’s why you need a group. It helps to have a group of likeminded people, a group of women or men depending at the same place you are, that are searching and seeking and at different levels.
That’s what Blue Rose Inner Circle is all about. We can come together, we can talk, we can work together to decide what your next stepis, you know, midlife isn’t what it used to be.
I mean, when my mother hit Midlife, it was like, that’s it. I’m done. Now we hit midlife and we’re like, sweet. All right. I’ve lived the first 50 years for y’all now live in the next 50 years for me. Most women say, Or, I raised children, went to college and was in the US Air Force and got married.
I checked all the boxes.
You have a great job, great title, great salary, check, check, check, check. And then you get to the point and say, wait for a second, have I been living my life or am I checking boxes.
I think we get caught up in checking boxes and as we hit 50, 60 years old we think… I’m out of boxes. I don’t want to do boxes anymore. I’m looking towards retiring, I’m looking towards my, ‘what’s next.’
And that’s not a box because I don’t want to be confined. What do I want to do? The beautiful thing about being middle age is we’ve made our money, we have money coming in, we’re doing okay, so you have freedom.
You have the freedom of all the years of experience. You have the freedom of looking around and saying, ‘I’m here for a purpose.’
Let me look back at everything I’ve done and see, you know, how’s that line up with where I’m at now. I know a lot of you guys are doing just that.
I see it all the time. I see it in the emails people send me. I see in the posts that people post to me, the I’m seeking, I’m searching. I can’t get unstuck. I can’t figure out how to get to my ‘what’s next.’
Why? Because we were programmed to checkboxes! We weren’t taught to stop and step out of ourselves. We weren’t taught to meditate. We weren’t taught to question. We were taught to check the boxes and now you know, 50, 60 years old, do no more. I’ve checked them all. I’m good. What do I want to do? What do you want to do that’s going to serve your soul? And that’s Finding Your Blue Rose.
Finding Your Blue Rose, finding your magical moments in life. The magical moment like when your first child’s born or the magical moment of getting married. The magical moment of turning 50, the magical moment of turning 60, that is what you want your life to be.
You want to have a life that fulfills you and the life that is your life! Not the life from checking all the boxes.
So come with me on your journey. Let’s journey together to Find Your Blue Rose,to find out what your next steps are. Because in a community you can’t go wrong when you’re in a community of likeminded people. So I hope you, I don’t hope, I know you’ll Find Your Blue Rose. I know if you’re seeking, you’re going to find it because the minute you start seeking the Universe is going to do everything it can to help you fulfill your yearning to help you.
I know you’ll thinking…we’re here and came forward to help you fulfill what you’re looking for and that will draw you to the right people. You’ll attract the people into your life that you need at that moment. You know, some people will come into your life for a second. Some people come into your life for lifetimes and some for a couple of years. I mean, how many times you’ve been somewhere and somebody makes a comment to you or you hear people who are talking, you look over and know was that message for me, or play a game where you get into your car because everything is divine timing. You get into your car and whatever song comes on first is a message. I get in my car to the first one was country western song about God’s Country. I love this song, but for some reason I changed the station. What was on the next station? Exact same song. God’s Country cause I, Hello Karen. As I say it for a song you heard in your car. So what’s the message. Keep your faith, believe because you will find your Blue Rose if you believe and you trust the science of the universe.
So join with me over in the Blue Rose Inner Circle.
If you want an Intuitive Card reading, go over to my website. I’m doing those now as well. I just, I’ve decided after four or five years of starting this business that I’m going to follow my Blue Rose and do it. I want to do it. I’m done asking anybody else what they think or asking is it socially acceptable to be as spiritual as I am?
Is it socially acceptable to be an intuitive? What will people think? You know what will where I work at think now. I can’t care. Got To Be Me. Who sang that song Sammy Davis Jr ‘I gotta be me.’
Okay, so let me know if you guys have any questions.
Put them in your comments below. I hope I see you over in a Blue Rose Inner Circle.
I look forward to serving you and helping you make a difference in your life. Talk to you later. Bye. Bye.
Love ya,
Karen